How does a Work at Home Mom Get Any Work Done?

A lot of people have asked me how I get any work done. It’s true, I did publish 5 eBooks before my son turned 3, as well as Remineralize Your Body Now! when he was only 2, and I launched The Nourished Village only a few weeks from my due date with baby Nicholas, while parenting Franklin nearly full time, freezing gallons of soup for after the birth, and doing everything else.

So what are my tricks? Here’s a Top 5.

1. Focus. If you’re focused, you can do a LOT. For example, let’s say that brushing your teeth before bed is super important. Well, it’s likely you’ll find time to do it every night. Your mind will be so focused on it that it will happen 99% of the time, maybe even 100%. Brushing teeth is only 3 minutes, but you can do a lot in 3 minutes. You can empty the entire dishwasher. You can put laundry in the washing machine. You can do sit ups. You just have to really want to.

Think: What do you really want to do? Write it down. When can you make it happen?

2. Get me-time. If you can do a lot in 3 minutes, image 1 hour. At first, I couldn’t fathom spending an hour away from my son. But then I realized… How is he ever going to bond with his dad? Get used to other people? Or even develop skills to play on his own? So, when he was a little older (maybe 18 months), we scheduled “daddy & son” mornings, every Saturday morning. Yes, it takes away from family time, but you know what, there’s Saturday afternoon, there’s Sunday, there’s evenings after work, etc. If someone you trust takes your child for an hour or two, you can prep green juice for 3 days, you can write part of a book, you can scrub your body, take a bath, wash your hair, and style it. You choose.

Think: How can you get some alone time? Do you already have alone time, but you spend it doing something you don’t enjoy? How can you change that?

3. Have a to-do list. It’s easy to think “I should do this” but it’s harder to remember to do it, especially if you’re the mom of small children and your mind is always busy. Every night, or every morning if I forget (hah!), I make a to-do list for the day. Yesterday, I wanted to clean the fridge, change a pediatrician appointment, contact a mom about playdates, upload a recipe and a craft project to Nourished Village, and take my dad to the airport. I had it all done by 8:30 am. As soon as I was done with something, I would look at my list for something else to do.

Think: What needs to really get done? Write it down. Set deadlines for yourself.

4. Don’t waste time with social media etc. The most successful people I know don’t start their day with non-important things like Facebook. There’s always time for that later on, because you can read a Facebook feed in 2 minutes, on your feet, while stirring soup. You can’t write a newsletter like that, though ;-) Which is why it’s barely 7 am and I’m writing you this while everyone sleeps (busy day yesterday!) and I haven’t had breakfast yet (I can have breakfast when my family wakes up).

Think: Are you wasting time on non-important (to you!) things you could do later?

5. Don’t feel stressed. Easy to say, you might think! Still, stress will keep you from being your best. We’re all feeling stressed sometimes. But you have to realize that stress is not often from things we can’t control it comes from within. If you’re stressed, you’re much less efficient. Remember… Your child might have done two identical things on different days. Yet, one day, you laughed at it, and one day you got mad. The difference? Your state of mind.

Think: What is stressing you out and keeping you from being the best you can be? How can you change that?

I hope these tips will be helpful to you. Let me know if you try some of them!

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5 Reasons Why the Continuum Concept is Misunderstood


Before Dr Sears and Attachment Parenting, there was The Continuum Concept. In the 70s, Jean Liedloff stayed with an Amazonian tribe for reasons completely unrelated to parenting. This fateful trip changed her life… And the life of many women around the globe who believed in a gentler way to parent.

What did Jean Liedloff discover? She discovered that, quite simply, you can be in tune with your baby, take care of him, love him, and not let him cry, and (it’s a big and!) you could absolutely be happy while doing so. Happier, in fact, than pretty much any Western parent around.

Today, many of us try to regain our lost Continuum, and yet… I see a lot of unhappiness in moms who go against the grain, and try to apply concepts from the Yequana tribe to their daily life. Here are the top 5 reasons why the Continuum Concept was misunderstood, and what we can do about it.

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Equinox Spice Latte (Vegan, Paleo, Raw Option)

equinox_latteLast week, my friend Kristen Suzanne of KristensRaw.com posted a picture of her daughter with a nice cup of “Equinox Latte.” I immediately decided to create one myself. I’m sure it’s different from hers, as I didn’t have all the spices, but it was a winner with my son Franklin and husband Matthew, so I’m sharing the recipe with you.

Equinox Spice Latte (Vegan, Paleo, Raw Option)*

Ingredients

- 1 cup milk of choice (almond, etc.) + 1/2 cup water
- 1 t rooibos tea
- 1 T coconut oil
- 1-2 T honey or coconut nectar
- 1/4 t cinnamon
- 1/8 t each ginger, clove, star anise
- 1/2 t chaga powder
- 1/2 t Immunity Mushroom Blend from EssentialLivingFoods.com

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[A Reader Asks] I stopped getting a period on the raw food diet. Why?

A reader asks:

I was on a raw vegan diet, and lost my period. It came back after I started eating a Paleo type diet. What do you think happened?

When I first started studying the raw food diet, I was amazed that some people thought getting a period was a sign of toxicity. The belief was that if you are toxic, your body detoxes through bleeding monthly, and a clean, pure body does not bleed at all. The uterine lining simply gets reabsorbed internally with no external shedding.

To me, this theory does not make any sense. If it were true, toxic animals would also get a period, and clean animals in the wild would not bleed (especially animals that are very similar to us like chimpanzees — yet they do get a period). But in reality, some animals bleed, and some don’t, and it has nothing to do with diet. Female dogs will apparently bleed on any diet, and female cats will not bleed even if they are fed the most perfect feline diet of muscle, organs and bones.
So, what happened on the raw vegan diet? I don’t know what you ate exactly, but I assume that your fat intake and/or your caloric intake was very low. Women need more fat than men, and they need high quality fats which can be hard to get if you don’t know what you are doing (which really is not your fault, there are so many raw food theories out there that things can get very confusing).

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[Recipe] Immunity No-Pumpkin Spice Shake

pumpkin_spice_shakeI posted this picture on Facebook last week, asking who wanted the recipe. You guys were enthusiastic about it, so here it is!

This shake gets its immunity boosting powers from the organic Immunity Blend Mushroom Powder from Essential Living Foods. Back when I was running an online raw food store, I ordered a lot from them. Their Brazil nuts were the best!

Onto the recipe. This shake has no pumpkin, but it does have Fall spices, like cinnamon, ginger, and cloves. It gets its orange color from… carrots! This adds beta carotene and vitamins, and absorption is facilitated thanks to the addition of healthy fats from coconut and cashews. You’ll get the smoothest texture from straining the carrot juice if you’re making it fresh with a slow juicer. A centrifuge juicer will be just fine, however.

Immunity No-Pumpkin Spike Shake
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[Book Review] Soul to Soul Parenting – A Guide to Raising a Spiritually Conscious Family

I love my job. Have I mentioned that before? I totally do. I get to meet the most amazing people ever, and spend my working time doing what I enjoy the most — trying to become a better, healthier person.

When Annie Burnside sent me her book, Soul to Soul Parenting: A Guide to Raising a Spiritually Conscious Family, I thought I would have the review up pretty quickly. Little did I know I would enjoy the book so much that it would take me months, yes, months, to write this. I didn’t want to do it in a hurry, because her book deserved so much more.

In Soul to Soul Parenting: A Guide to Raising a Spiritually Conscious Family, Annie Burnside (“the Eckhart Tolle” of parenting) inspires us by sharing her own journey to create a spiritually conscious family, while giving advice that is open-ended enough for us to create our own separate, unique path. I was very inspired by the Family Rituals section, as I believe that children thrive on routines and rituals, finding them comforting and reassuring. I would love for us to say grace for example — and even though I thought my husband would never be on board, he actually really likes the idea too!

As I wrote the review, I realized that there was no better testament to the wonderfulness of this book than Annie’s writings. I will be sharing a few passages that I particularly enjoyed, and hope you will grab yourself a copy of this book for you to find your own gems!

For instance, Annie discusses the fact that opening our hearts to what is positive really does chase away negativity. She writes:
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[Recipe] Creamy Jerusalem Artichoke & Garlic Soup

Fall calls for root vegetables, but in addition to growing the usual ones (turnips, carrots, potatoes, etc.), my husband also grows more obscure ones, like Jerusalem artichokes.

They are so easy to grow — we picked some up at the store, cut it up so that each piece has a tuber/eye, and planted each piece. They grew into tall, beautiful plants with bright yellow flowers. Gorgeous!

According to Wikipedia, “The artichoke contains about 10% protein, no oil, and a surprising lack of starch. However, it is rich in the carbohydrate inulin (76%), which is a polymer of the monosaccharide fructose. Tubers stored for any length of time will convert their inulin into its component fructose. Jerusalem artichokes have an underlying sweet taste because of the fructose, which is about one and a half times sweeter than sucrose.[5]

Jerusalem artichokes have also been promoted as a healthy choice for type 2 diabetics, because fructose is better tolerated by people who are type 2 diabetic. It has also been reported as a folk remedy for diabetes.[5] Temperature variances have been shown to affect the amount of inulin the Jerusalem artichoke can produce. When not in tropical regions, it has been shown to make less inulin than when it is in a warmer region”.

We ended up with about 5 lbs of Jerusalem artichoke. The first recipe I created to use them was a tasty, garlic scented soup. It’s very easy to make, and goes very well with a raw blue cheese like Roquefort.

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Creamy Jerusalem Artichoke & Garlic Soup 

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The Natural Birth Story of Nicholas John – A Healing Experience After a First Traumatic Labor

Almost 4 years ago, I gave birth to my first son, Franklin. I had read all the Ina May Gaskin books, had read other books like Orgasmic Birth, ate really well, did yoga almost daily, walked daily, and was in great shape. I imagined labor to be an experience that can be either enjoyable or painful, depending on your state of mind, how you were raised (if people told you horror stories, for example), how well fed you are, etc. With the second pregnancy, there was no yoga, no exercise, just running after my son and not sleeping for more than 3 hours straight for over 3 years!

At the time, I lived in Iowa, and looked high and low for a homebirth midwife to assist me. I found no one. I heard an interview with a homebirth midwife (Cosette Boone) on NPR, and called her up… Her staff said she wouldn’t help me. I had to go to a birth center over an hour away (I was due in winter, when snow in Iowa can be intense). So, I ended up going to the hospital near my house (Mary Greeley Medical Center), assisted by midwives as opposed to an OB, and generally still feeling pretty confident about the whole thing.

Long story short, my waters broke at 2 am, but I hadn’t progressed past 4 centimeters 18 hours later, and was given Pitocin to speed things up. I still wanted a natural birth, but after a whole day with many hours spent in excruciating pain (Pitocin causes unbearable contractions), I got the epidural and slept for 6 hours. I then pushed for 4 hours with a botched epidural that had penetrated my spinal fluid, and was left incapacitated and in immense pain for 2 weeks after the birth. The anesthesiologist made jokes in bad taste, and the pediatrician fed Franklin formula. It was a horror story.

3 years later, I got pregnant again… And swore I’d never go to a hospital. By then, I was living in Portland OR and visited a birth center, but wasn’t impressed for many reasons. Plus, it was going to be super expensive. I then checked out the nearby hospital, OHSU, and was blown away. They  had amazing natural birth stories on their websites, and did vaginal deliveries of breech babies. Breech babies! I thought no hospital in the country would do that! I looked into them a little more, and found out that their team of midwives was amazing — one of them, Linda Glenn, does homebirths and works at a homebirth clinic, and was quoted on an online forum saying that she doesn’t deliver babies, she just catches them.

Well then! I decided to go there. My insurance covered the birth, and I felt confident it was a good choice. For good measure though, I made raspberry leaf tinctures to ripen my cervix, drank nettle and raspberry leaf infusions, and took liposomal vitamin C to strengthen my bag of waters and avoid it breaking early like it did the first time.

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Less than a week before the birth, 39 weeks

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Putting the Joy Back Into Parenting – Exhaustion & Depletion Aren’t Par for the Mothering Course

Remember when you used to play solitaire? Would you see a bad line up of cards, and play anyway? If you are like me, you probably reshuffled the cards, gave yourself a new deal, and only played if it was good enough this time around.

Joy is similar. If you are OK with a difficult situation, or even worse, if you feel that you don’t deserve anything better, finding joy will be so much harder. It’s true that our happiness level depends a lot on our state of mind (being satisfied with what we have), but human beings have needs and limitations, and believe it or not, mothers are human beings too.

The 2 Sides of Modern Parenting

It is not unusual for a mother to run around non stop to keep her family clean, fed, happy, entertained, etc. It’s also not unusual for said mom to be tired, depleted, morally broken down — and to assume that it’s all par for the course.

Articles on mothering written by mothers often have 2 themes running. We have the:
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Chia Seeds Recipe: Chocolate Mousse Chia Pudding Recipe (Raw, Vegan, Paleo)

I have a deep love for chia seeds. These nutritionally miraculous little seeds are chock-full of omega 3 fatty acids, in which I believe the general population to be deficient. Add to this the fact that many people don’t eat fish, or don’t eat the right kinds of fish, and it’s easy to see how many of us may not get enough of this vital nutrient, which can lead to anxiety, depression, and more.

A 2004 Canadian study (among many other studies) reported that:

“Omega-3 fatty acids play a critical role in the development and function of the central nervous system. Emerging research is establishing an association between omega-3 fatty acids (alpha-linolenic, eicosapentaenoic, docosahexaenoic) and major depressive disorder.”

To ensure I get enough DHA (the type of Omega 3 the body needs and does not manufacture), I take 2 capsules of O-mega-zen 3 daily, and often eat chia seeds in the form of puddings and stirred into drinks. Lately, I have taken things further by also adding chia oil to my puddings as well as non-GM soy lecithin powder, and was rewarded by a wonderful, mousse like texture (from the oil/lecithin blend). Just in case you think I’m kidding, know that my husband remarked on it himself without me saying anything!

Chocolate Mousse Chia Pudding

The lecithin and oils emulsify to give this chia pudding a chocolate mousse consistency!

Ingredients (serves 4)

- 1/2 cup chia seeds
- ½ cup raw cacao powder
- 1/3 cup Coconut Secret coconut nectar, raw honey, or your favorite sweetener
- 1 cup raw hazelnuts, or use toasted
- 1 inch vanilla bean or a little vanilla bean powder
- 1 T coconut oil
- 1 T non-GM lecithin powder,
- 1 T chia seed oil
- 2 drops Medicine Flower coffee extract (optional)
- Celtic sea salt, pinch

Directions

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